Les langages de l'amour
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- Author：Gary Chapman
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Summary
Couples who understand each other's love language hold a priceless advantage in the quest for love that lasts a lifetime -- they know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and deeply loved。 That gift never fades away。
Reviews
Shlok Kamath
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Helped me a lot。 Now both my wives are happy and satisfied。
Gregp
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8 out of 10
Viktorija Mejerytė
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Paprastai， suprantamai aprašytos tiesos， kurias perskaičius kiekvienam esant santykiuose palengvėtų kasdienybė。 💕
sharky
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Enough has been written about the five love languages that I don't think this book is required reading anymore。 You can tell that it was written in the 90s - no mentions of heterosexual couples， ideas for dates that would be downright weird today， and no discussion of how the internet & smartphones affect expressions of love。 Not bad， though， and I appreciate how widely resonant this framework is。 Enough has been written about the five love languages that I don't think this book is required reading anymore。 You can tell that it was written in the 90s - no mentions of heterosexual couples， ideas for dates that would be downright weird today， and no discussion of how the internet & smartphones affect expressions of love。 Not bad， though， and I appreciate how widely resonant this framework is。 。。。more
Megan Yingst
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This book was a pretty helpful way to reevaluate communication & perspective in my relationship & I did enjoy my reading it with my fiancé。I do feel like the language & stories are a little dated。 There are no references to anything other than a heterosexual relationship。 I believe he says marriage is between "a man & a woman" towards the end。 Gendered pronouns are always used。 Gender roles are VERY predominant in the couples he showcases & to be honest some of the stories came off a little scum This book was a pretty helpful way to reevaluate communication & perspective in my relationship & I did enjoy my reading it with my fiancé。I do feel like the language & stories are a little dated。 There are no references to anything other than a heterosexual relationship。 I believe he says marriage is between "a man & a woman" towards the end。 Gendered pronouns are always used。 Gender roles are VERY predominant in the couples he showcases & to be honest some of the stories came off a little scummy to us。 I probably wouldn't gift this book as I would prefer to promote a book that is more LGBTQIA inclusive & progressive。Dr。 Chapman also makes a lot of Christian references。 It definitely didn't come off as that kind of book until the ending few chapters。 One of his stories on physical touch was very preachy。 To us， it seemed to promote wives being sexually submissive to their husbands。。。very off putting。 。。。more
Jeiky FR
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wonderful for understand couples relationships。！！！！
M H
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Fantastic book！Puts in simple words a clear understanding of how to convey your love to your partner in a way that they feel loved。
Najeeb
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I read this book because it was recommended by a marital counselor and I'm all cheers that i didn't miss that session。 I got married few months ago and we are beginning to understand the intricacies of marital relationship。 I see this book as a foundational one because love is the foundation of any successful marriage。 So mastering and speaking the love language of your spouse is akin to sourcing the right building materials for a sound foundation。I now understand the theoretical part of love la I read this book because it was recommended by a marital counselor and I'm all cheers that i didn't miss that session。 I got married few months ago and we are beginning to understand the intricacies of marital relationship。 I see this book as a foundational one because love is the foundation of any successful marriage。 So mastering and speaking the love language of your spouse is akin to sourcing the right building materials for a sound foundation。I now understand the theoretical part of love languages - - and what remains is to practicalise。 I will ensure that my wife reads and digest the book， so we can act on same wavelength。 The goal is to KEEP THE LOVE TANK FULL at almost all times 。。。more
Tina Ann Nguyen
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A Must Read For Couples While I get suspicious of writers who simplify solutions to a problem， I think this book is a good starting point for couples。 It is an easy read and I would recommend people to think about these concepts early on in their relationship to prevent conflicts later on。 Think of it like having a prenup discussion， but at least you’ll know if your primary and secondary love languages are words of affirmation， gift giving， spending time， acts of service， or physical touch。
احلام الحربي
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جميل الى حد ما فعلاً ال 5 لغات صحيحه ولكن شعرت بممل من القراة بصراحه
Derek Falkowsky
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The newest version of the books is less religious。 And， as an atheist， I was still able to take a lot away from this books。 Its a good foundation to start if your open minded。A really helpful read that highlights how to look for that specific love language in friendships， family， and intimate relationships， and the relationship with Self。 At the end of the day who doesn't want to feel loved and supported？ I would emphasize the importance of such a read， especially if you did not experience a who The newest version of the books is less religious。 And， as an atheist， I was still able to take a lot away from this books。 Its a good foundation to start if your open minded。A really helpful read that highlights how to look for that specific love language in friendships， family， and intimate relationships， and the relationship with Self。 At the end of the day who doesn't want to feel loved and supported？ I would emphasize the importance of such a read， especially if you did not experience a whole lot of love growing up and are unsure what that may look like for yourself as well as giving it to others。 Relationships are life！ 。。。more
C_R_U_Z_106
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Me servira en un futuro。
Widad Bch
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من أفضل كتب التنمية البشرية التي قرأتها في حياتي فهو بسيط لا يعتمد على التكرار وقصير لمن يبحث عن الفائدة في وقت ضيق
Aly McElhaney
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This book changed my life。 There’s no other way to put it。 As a single 22 year old， I learned so so much about my relationship with myself， with my future spouse and learned so much about how to strengthen relationships with those around me。 The author does an incredible job and putting these impactful words into something so plain and simple to understand。 I’ve invited my whole family to read this book！
Aarthi
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The book is awesome and really helpful to understand others better。
Heather Grande
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Pulled a bit of learning about people's tanks， but very dated and his window of persons limited to several Donna Reedish couples。 Pulled a bit of learning about people's tanks， but very dated and his window of persons limited to several Donna Reedish couples。 。。。more
luiza saad
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2。5 ⭐️tentando resumir tudo que eu tenho a dizer: muito crente pro meu gostoacho o tema das linguagens do amor bem interessante， e de forma geral acho que a teoria que foi apresentada faz bastante sentido。 mas meu problema com esse livro foi a abordagem， geralmente por meio de exemplos e relatos pessoais， que o autor trazia para explicar o que ele queria dizer por traz das pesquisas das “cinco linguagens do amor”。 eu gostaria muito de aprender mais sobre esse assunto de uma forma menos heteronor 2。5 ⭐️tentando resumir tudo que eu tenho a dizer: muito crente pro meu gostoacho o tema das linguagens do amor bem interessante， e de forma geral acho que a teoria que foi apresentada faz bastante sentido。 mas meu problema com esse livro foi a abordagem， geralmente por meio de exemplos e relatos pessoais， que o autor trazia para explicar o que ele queria dizer por traz das pesquisas das “cinco linguagens do amor”。 eu gostaria muito de aprender mais sobre esse assunto de uma forma menos heteronormativa， e que fugisse um pouco do que certas religiões conservadoras dizem como certo。 os casais usados como exemplo （histórias reais， segundo o autor） consistiam sempre em: uma dona de casa e o marido que sai para trabalhar e não tem tempo pra ela…。 e todos os problemas matrimoniais que foram relatados eram uma ramificação diss。 não consegui me identificar com nenhum pouco com as filosofias que o livro tentou induzir。 além de notas alguns trechos problemáticos， que sempre entender que você deve se curvar as vontades do seu cônjuge， em especial teve uma frase que me chamou a atenção “se você não é uma pessoa muito física mas a linguagem do seu parceiro é toque， tente se aproximar com pequenos gestos todos os dias que aos poucos você se acostuma”， acho que nem preciso explicar o porquê isso não é uma ideia de relacionamento muito saudável。 o autor chega a dizer em certo momento que “o amor tem que ser um esforço diário， assim como acordar às seis da manhã para trabalhar”…oi？isso supostamente deveria justificar você abrir mão das suas vontades para satisfazer “a linguagem do amor” do seu cônjuge。 tendo noção da pluralidade das formas de relacionamento que nós conhecemos em 2021， eu digo com certeza que esse livro trata os laços amorosos de uma forma bem ultrapassada， mas como eu disse， a teoria （o que me fez ter vontade de ler esse livro em primeiro lugar） é interessante。 。。。more
Alicia Gimenez
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Comprender que todos manejamos distintos lenguajes y dialectos para recibir y dar amor。 Descubrir cuales hablas y cuales necesitan los demás para una comunicación mas fluida y altruista。
Ion Gritco
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One of the best books about relationships
Alonso Vargas
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We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love。 "In love experience" 2 years。 The in-love experience does not focus on our growth nor the growth and development of the other person。 Rather， it gives us the sense that we have arrived， and we do not need further growth。 The falling-in-love experience is not real love for three reasons。 First， falling in love is not an act of will or a conscious choice。 Second， falling in love is not r We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love。 "In love experience" 2 years。 The in-love experience does not focus on our growth nor the growth and development of the other person。 Rather， it gives us the sense that we have arrived， and we do not need further growth。 The falling-in-love experience is not real love for three reasons。 First， falling in love is not an act of will or a conscious choice。 Second， falling in love is not real love because it is effortless。 Third， one who is "in love" is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person。 Real Love -> unites reason and emotion。 Requires effort and discipline。 Real love cannot begin until the "in love" experience has run its course。 Intentional。 "I am married to you， and I choose to look out for your interests。"The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love。 It is a fact， however， that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate"。 1） Words of affirmation。 Encourage （to inspire courage）。 We as humans lack courage， and that lack of courage often hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to。 Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective。 We must learn first what's important to your spouse。 Only then can we encourage。 Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop。 What holds us back is often courage。 You will seek to put yourself in her shoes， and see the event through his eyes， and then express softly and kindly your understanding of why he feels that way。You will seek understanding and reconciliation， and not to prove your own perception as the only logical way to interpret what has happened。 Forgiveness is not a feeling， it is a commitment。 It is a choice to show mercy。 Love makes requests， not demands。 We need to give guidance， not ultimatums。 A request introduces the element of choice。 Love is always of choice。 A request creates the possibility for an expression of love， whereas a demand suffocates that possibility。 2） Quality time。 Look into her eyes， giving her your full attention。 Doing something with her that she enjoys doing， and doing it wholeheartedly。 A central aspect of quality time is togetherness。 I do not mean proximity， togetherness has to do with focused attention。 Listen sympathetically。 I will ask questions， with a genuine desire to understand your thoughts， feelings， and desires。 Many of us are trained to analyze problems and create solutions。 We forget that marriage is a relationship， not a project to be completed or a problem to solve。 She wanted sympathy。 She wanted me to listen， to give her attention。 To let her know that I could understand the hurt， the stress， the pressure。 She wanted to know that I loved her and that I was with her。 She wanted to be understood。 I was too busy giving advice。 What a fool。 And now she is gone。 We must be willing to give advice but only when it is requested and never in a condescending manner。 2。1） Maintain eye contact2。2） Don't listen to your spouse and do something else at the same time。 2。3） Listen to feelings。 2。4） Observe body language2。5） Ask for clarification。 2。5） Refuse to interrupt。 In each of life's events， we have emotions， thoughts， desires， and eventually actions。 We are influenced by our personality， but not controlled by it。 The emphasis is not on what you are doing， but on why you are doing it。 3） GiftsGifts are visual symbols of love。 Symbols have emotional value。 You are purchasing slef-worth and emotional security。 Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give if your spouse's primary love is receiving gifts。 Your body becomes the symbol of your love。 4） Acts of service Doing things your spouse would like you to do。 You seek to please her by serving her， to express your love for her by doing things for her。 They require thought， planning， time， effort and energy。 Requests give direction to love， but demands stop the flow of love。 It sounds extremely important to you， could you care to explain why it is so crutial？Simple？ Yes Easy？ NoA willingless to examine and change stereotypes is necessary in order to express love more effectively。 5） Physical Touch Don't make the mistake of believing that the touch that bring pleasure to you will also bring pleasure to her。 Unde the table toucher。 Almost instinctevely in a time of crisis， we hug each toher。 We cannot always change events， but we can survive if we feel loved。 Our actions are influenced by the model of our parents， our own personality， our perceptions of love， our emotions， needs and desires。 Love is a choice。 Each of us must decide daily to love or not to love our spouses。 Most sexual problems in marriage have little to do with physical technique but everything to do with meeting emotional needs。 Love doesn't erase the past， but it makes the future different。 When an action doesn't come naturally to you， it is a greater expression of love。 Love is something you do for someone else， not something you do for yourself。 True love always liberates。 We discover how to bring out the best in each other。 Those are the rewards of love。 "I've been thinking about us and I've decided that I would like to be a better spouse to you。 So if you have any suggestions as to how I could be a better one I want to let you know I am open to them。 You can tell me" "Do you remember i told you I wanted to be a better spouse？ I want to ask how you think I'm doing。 Make the request on something specific， not general。 His opinion was that almost all sexual misconduct in adolescents is rooted in an empty emotional love tank。 If you claim to have feelings that you do not have， that is hypocritical， but if you express an act of love that is designed for other person's benefit or pleasure， it is simply a choice。 Quiz （Yo）Word of Affirmation 8 Quality Time 8 Gifts 1Acts of Service 1 Physical Touch 10 。。。more
Victoria
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A little heteronormative （the author is also homophobic） but this advice still applies to LGBTQ+ couples。 Someone ought to do research with homosexual couples and see if there's any variance and we can move past this overly church-filled book。 Hate the author， love the concept， eh？ The Glenn story needs to be purged from this book。 A woman shouldn't have to suffer abuse and use herself to revive a marriage。 A little heteronormative （the author is also homophobic） but this advice still applies to LGBTQ+ couples。 Someone ought to do research with homosexual couples and see if there's any variance and we can move past this overly church-filled book。 Hate the author， love the concept， eh？ The Glenn story needs to be purged from this book。 A woman shouldn't have to suffer abuse and use herself to revive a marriage。 。。。more
Maryam Qtr
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Interesting book ，I found many examples of each LOVE LANGUAGE around me。 Many excellent personality revealing hints。
Martine
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This was a great book。 I highly recommend it。 I was raised Christian but I don't believe at all anymore。 I can see where this book would grate on some nerves and I was surprised it didn't grate on mine。 I think it is because I feel like the author is not trying to convert you with this book。 Christianity is just a really big part of his life。 I read the 5 love languages of children before reading this book and would highly recommend that book as well。 This was a great book。 I highly recommend it。 I was raised Christian but I don't believe at all anymore。 I can see where this book would grate on some nerves and I was surprised it didn't grate on mine。 I think it is because I feel like the author is not trying to convert you with this book。 Christianity is just a really big part of his life。 I read the 5 love languages of children before reading this book and would highly recommend that book as well。 。。。more
Said
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Amazing book for anyone who is interested in strengthening their relationship with their significant other。I do admit that some of the ideas did not age well， but I still appreciated the perspective。
Kaiema Al
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كتاب يشرح ماهية الحب بعد الزواج، الفرق بين حالة الوقوع في الحب المؤقتة وخزان الحب العاطفي بين الطرفين الذي ينبني عليه أساس الحب الحقيقي وشغف الاستمرار في العلاقة العاطفية。。 بعد بحث الكاتب المستمر في طريقة تعبير الجنسين عن الحب وجلساته التحليلية معهم。。 اكتشف أن الطريقة التي يشعر بها شخص في العلاقة بأنه محبوب تختلف عن الآخر ليخرج ب ٥ لغات مختلفة للحب على كل شخص اكتشاف لغة الحب الخاصة به ولغة الحب الخاصة بشريكه واستثمارها في العلاقة تعبيراً عن الحب。。 كماذكرها في كتابه مفصلة مع ذكر أمثلة عليها: 1。 W كتاب يشرح ماهية الحب بعد الزواج، الفرق بين حالة الوقوع في الحب المؤقتة وخزان الحب العاطفي بين الطرفين الذي ينبني عليه أساس الحب الحقيقي وشغف الاستمرار في العلاقة العاطفية。。 بعد بحث الكاتب المستمر في طريقة تعبير الجنسين عن الحب وجلساته التحليلية معهم。。 اكتشف أن الطريقة التي يشعر بها شخص في العلاقة بأنه محبوب تختلف عن الآخر ليخرج ب ٥ لغات مختلفة للحب على كل شخص اكتشاف لغة الحب الخاصة به ولغة الحب الخاصة بشريكه واستثمارها في العلاقة تعبيراً عن الحب。。 كماذكرها في كتابه مفصلة مع ذكر أمثلة عليها: 1。 Words of affirmation 2。 Quality time 3。 Receiving gifts 4。 Acts of service 5。 Physical touch كما ذكر الكاتب في فصل كامل كيفية اكتشاف لغة الحب الخاصة بالقارئ وأنَّ الحب هو خيار من خيارات الحياة عندما يختاره الإنسان سيرى التغيير الكبير في علاقاته。。 تغييراً يتناسب مع طاقة الحب الكبيرة التي تفوق القدرات وتصنع المعجزات。。 。。。more
Shaaf Matin
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Very informative good stories…。 My primary language is Acts of Service at a 10 and Physical Touch at a 9 🤙🏽
Isabel Archuleta
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NEED TO PICK UP THE BOOK SO I CAN MAKE NOTES OF THE EXERCISES
Maggie Josephson
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I do think this is a must read for all people in relationships。 Marriage， dating or otherwise。
Jose Torroja Ribera
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Se lee rápido e invita a la reflexión。
Bidule_triste
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Die allgemeine Idee von den 5 Sprachen finde ich interessant und überwiegend einleuchtend， auch wenn ich von mir aus diese Einteilung nicht gesehen hätte。 Die negativen Punkte wurden bei anderen bereits ausführlich beschrieben， wobei ich die Bibel-Zitate weniger anstrengend fand als die Eigenlob-Hudelei des Autoren， der gefühlt ständig sein Buch （oder die für Kinder， Jugendliche， Singles，。。） bewirbt und betont， wie toll er doch mit seiner Arbeit sei。 Daher zwei Sterne Abzug。
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